Be Transformed by the Renewing of Your Mom Brain

“Your Brain is a Messy Room — and It’s Time to Start Cleaning It.”

Welcome back to Bad Christian Moms, where we tell the truth about motherhood, faith, and all the messy middle parts that don’t make it to Instagram.

This week, we’re talking about your brain. 🧠

You don’t control everything in your life — not your kids’ moods, not your husband’s commute, not the number of crumbs accumulating in your car, even the ones that exploded all over you as you downed that free cookie. 😅 But you do have control over one incredibly powerful thing: your thoughts.

Most of us underestimate just how much our thought life shapes our actual life.
Every feeling you have, every behavior you repeat, every pattern you wish you could change — it all starts with a thought.

When your thoughts run wild, your emotions do too.
When your thoughts are lined up with truth, peace follows.

Romans 12:2 says, “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
That’s not a cute Pinterest verse. That’s the key to change.

The Cleaning Analogy You’ll Never Forget

Think about how many hours a week you spend cleaning — dishes, laundry, counters, bodies.
Now ask yourself: how much time do you spend cleaning up your thoughts?

A messy mind spills everywhere.
It affects your patience, your joy, your marriage, your kids’ sense of safety. your relationship with God (from your end, NOT from His 🥰).

Learning to “clean as you go” mentally — noticing your thoughts, naming them, and redirecting them toward truth — is one of the most underutilized tools in motherhood.

Circumstances vs. Thoughts

You can’t control your circumstances (your husband being late again, your child melting down over the wrong color cup).
But you can control what you think about those circumstances.

And your thoughts create feelings.
Your feelings drive your behavior.
Your behavior shapes your results.

That’s the sequence. Circumstance → Thought → Feeling → Behavior → Result.

If you change your thought, you change your life.

Example Time

When your husband’s late, your thought might be,

“He doesn’t care. I’m stuck here doing everything.”

That thought creates anger, which creates snappy comments and tension when he walks in the door — which leads to disconnection.

But if you catch that thought and replace it with,

“He’s probably tired too. I bet if I worked all day, I’d need a breather before walking into chaos,”

you’re suddenly calmer. You greet him differently.
And your evening goes better — not because he changed, but because you did.

What another example? Check out the one I coached my kids through in this podcast episode.

Your Homework

Start paying attention to your thoughts.
That’s it. Just notice them.

Next time you’re cleaning your kitchen, clean your mind too.
Ask yourself: What am I thinking about this situation right now?
Is it true? Is it helpful? Is it in line with the gospel?

Because you can’t always choose your first thought,
but you can choose your second one.

Sneak Peek of What’s Next

Once you start noticing your thoughts, you’ll hit a common pitfall that can totally sabotage your progress — and that’s exactly what we’ll talk about in the next episode and post. 👀

So subscribe, and let’s start renewing those minds together.