Shame Knows Your Name (But So Does Grace)

Episode 2 of the Bad Christian Moms Podcast

I have a confession to make.

When I published my very first podcast episode… I didn’t tell a soul.

Not my friends.
Not my email list.
Not even my husband.

He found out weeks later because he saw the email I finally sent, tears streaming down my face, telling people that I had launched something. That I had done a thing.

And the funny part? Hitting publish was easy. It was literally just clicking a few buttons.
The hard part was telling people I had done it.

Why? Because of the whispers.

The Voice That Says “Who Do You Think You Are?”

You know the one.
That whisper that creeps in right when you’re about to do something brave or meaningful:

“Who do you think you are?”
“No one wants to hear that.”
“This isn’t good enough.”
“You’re not good enough.”

It’s the same voice that’s been echoing since the Garden of Eden — the one that told Eve that God was holding out on her because she wasn't enough.

That’s the voice of shame.

And shame’s favorite strategy? Disconnection.
It wants to keep you hidden — from God, from others, and even from your own heart and mind.

Shame Wants You to Hide

Shame whispers: “Don’t tell anyone about what you love to do.”
“Don’t show people what you made.”
“Don’t admit what you’re struggling with.”

It convinces us that we’ll be rejected if people see the real us.
So we hide.

But we were made for connection and creativity — for relationship with God and with others. So of course shame attacks right there. It knows that if it can keep you from sharing, creating, confessing, or connecting… it wins.

And it’s sneaky.
It can show up in your art, your parenting, your marriage, your friendships, your faith.
It can even whisper, “You call yourself a Christian and you still struggle with that?”

That voice isn’t conviction. That’s shame, trying to pull you away from the very One who came to cover you — not with fig leaves, but with His righteousness.

The Gospel vs. Shame

There's a lot of helpful stuff out there about shame but nothing—nothing—can silence shame like the gospel.

Because here’s the truth:
You are not enough.
And that’s actually good news.

Because Someone Else was more than enough on your behalf.
And He’s given Himself fully to you.

When shame says, “You’re not good enough,”
grace answers, “You don’t have to be.”

When shame says, “Hide,”
grace says, “Come out into the light—there’s nothing to fear.”

When shame says, “You’re too broken,”
grace says, “You’re already covered.”

This is the only thing powerful enough to set you free.

So What Do You Do When Shame Starts Talking?

Two things:

1. Lean into God’s love.

Remember who He is and how He loves you — fully, relentlessly, right where you are.
If you’ve forgotten, dig back into the gospel.
Let it wash over you again:

“Even while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)

That means His love doesn’t wait for your performance to improve. It’s already yours.

2. Scorn the shame by doing it anyway.

That’s what I had to do. I had to send the email anyway.
Not because I felt ready, but because I wanted freedom more than I wanted approval.

Scorning shame doesn’t mean pretending it’s not there. It means looking it in the eye, saying, “Fork you, shame,” (yes, like The Good Place 😆), and doing the thing anyway.

Because every time you do, you get a little freer.

What’s Shame Trying to Stop You From Doing?

Maybe it’s sharing your art.
Maybe it’s confessing a sin.
Maybe it’s hosting that dinner you’ve been putting off because you’re afraid the food won’t be good enough.

(Been there. I once caught myself worrying that my cooking wasn’t “good enough” for guests. Which, honestly, is such a tiny example — but that’s the point. Shame seeps in anywhere it can.)

So pay attention.
That quiet resistance might be a sign you’re on holy ground — right where freedom is waiting.

You Don’t Have to Hide Anymore

You are not too much.
You are not too little.
You are not behind.
You are not beyond redemption.

There is nothing that can separate you from the love of God.
When you stand in that love, you stand on sturdy ground.

So go do the thing, little mama.
Hit publish.
Make the call.
Tell the truth.
Invite someone in.
Be seen.

Not because you’re “enough,” but because you are loved.

Want to Go Deeper?

If this topic hit home for you, I created a whole course called Your Shame, Crucified.
It dives deeper into how the gospel frees you from the grip of shame—for good.

If you want it, shoot me an email and I’ll send you a discount code so price isn’t a barrier:
📩 [email protected] 

Thanks for being here.
Thanks for listening.
Thanks for walking toward freedom with me.

And if you haven’t yet—
🎧 Listen to Episode 2: “Shame Knows Your Name” 

You’re not alone in this.
Grace has already called you by name. 💛